It’s no secret that pregnancy and the delivery of a baby does a number on a woman’s body. From stretch marks and weight gain to changes in complexion and even hair loss, your postpartum appearance can leave you feeling like a completely different person, especially in the bedroom. Whether you’re feeling self-conscious about your physical experience or your hormones are killing your sex drive, keep reading for some steps you can take to regain your sexual confidence postpartum.
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER
If you do not have open lines of communication in other aspects of your relationship, it may be impossible to repair the disconnect you’re experiencing in the bedroom. It’s likely that you’re both extremely tired, especially if your baby is brand new. Even something as simple as designating 20 minutes a day to spend “alone” together to talk is a great way to work back up to your pre-baby intimacy routine. However, if it’s been a while and you find you still have a strong disinterest in sex, or if you’re experiencing pain during intercourse, you should consult your doctor.
ADOPT A FITNESS ROUTINE
Studies have shown exercise can actually help to improve your sex life. Once you’ve been cleared by your doctor, incorporating some physical activity into your daily routine is a great way to start feeling like yourself again. Whether it’s a simple walk around the block or a Mommy and me class, exercise releases endorphins which help combat feelings of depression. While exercise is not solely intended to promote weight loss, it can certainly help things along if you have a goal in mind.
During pregnancy, women abstain from cosmetic practices such as coloring their hair or getting their nails done. After the baby arrives, treating yourself to something special is a great way to celebrate. Going for a manicure or even a day at the spa can help you feel like your pre-baby self again. Buying an outfit you feel good in or a new pair of shoes you’ve been eyeing can also boost your confidence and help you to feel sexy. It’s crucial that you feel comfortable in the skin you’re in before you dive back into intimacy. This way you can get reacquainted with your body and your wants and desires. Self-discovery goes hand in hand with empowerment which in turn will help to promote your confidence level.
Like anything else, regaining your confidence in the bedroom will take time. While waiting may not be your favorite thing to do, it’s crucial you give yourself time to heal both physically and mentally before you jump back into intimacy. Listen to your body and your brain and take things slow. Don’t get discouraged if things and feelings aren’t coming back to you right away. Your body will run its course and you’ll be back into a routine when you’re completely ready. Regardless of how long it takes, it’s important to remind yourself that you are strong and your body can do just about anything! Afterall, you just birthed another human!